It came down to a bitter squabble between myself and my husband. I finally found out that it came down to my old habits of looking for solutions outside myself. I’ve realized it, and now I just have to live it. Instead of blaming someone else, I look and see how I wanted it and I created it. There is no one else to fix, in that anyone else has to change the way they are. It’s the way I look and respond rather than react. It’s a challenge to hold the space for tomorrow when you think you are guilty. -L.H.